Medications.

Why we need emotions.
How does someone avoid emotions? People say “Emotions are to strong” “Emotions make me suicidal” and so, like most Americans, we want to avoid hard situations! So now what? Instead of crossing a bridge and getting over such emotions, bettering ourselves, we decide to worsen our self. We pop pills. We smoke blunts. We become un-available emotionally to the people who need us, and for what? To avoid a tear or two. Maybe a whole bucket or tears? A stomach ache. A heart ‘break’.
Let’s go back… Take two stories.

Story one.
You begin to notice the new feeling, the churning stomach, the need to cry, your heart’s pounding and your up all night with migraines thinking of that fight, or those bullies, or that spouse. You do as we should do, when feeling uneasy and visit a doctor. She/He says your depressed. That’s it, your diagnosed, depression. Bring in the Zoloft and other medication pills to slow your heart race down and kill all the moments that touch you.
Maybe you laugh at that comedy show still, and enjoy intimacy. Good, right? But, did you actually face the issue? Do you know why you were ‘diagnosed’ with depression? Not just, heart break. Names, actions, details. Write them down. Let’s say your spouse cheated, so you became depressed. Your on meds, so… if your spouse cheats again, it’s not your fault? You shouldn’t be mad… or happy? Or sad. Or… depressed? What do you do. You came across this bridge, and ignored it once before with meds, so you still, don’t know how to pass over it.
Screw meds, your depressed again, and now, plain confused.
End.

Story two.
Your again notice your symptoms and go to a doctor, and are told of depression, but you pass the medications. You go home, stay up all night, migraines, tears, confusion. Maybe you get yourself through it, maybe your still on it, by the next morning. You can’t ponder on something forever! You can’t think ‘how has this happened?!” until you grow old, can you? No. So let’s say, for this situation, again your spouse cheated, and yes, you take the said spouse back. You fought the tears, the raging thoughts, and you crossed that bridge.
Your happy with your spouse, things go great. (maybe?) Your spouse cheats again, and you’ve been through this. So… what do you decide to do? Let’s just say, you decide to dump this person! (Good for you!)  Your mind may miss them for a while, but lets make this a happy ending. A quick one. You find more spouse candy to chew on and forget about your ex lover.  And hey, you learned more about dating in the process hopefully!
You have kids, grow old and die.
Yay! The end.

See the difference? (Duh!?) Medications, are a road block. A black blanket thrown over your head to forget the real life situations. Maybe we need some sheltering blankets sometimes! But why in medications? How’s the beach sound? Or what ever you like doing by yourself so you can have some great thinking time.
You’re your own best therapist. No one can open up %100 in words, there just isn’t enough words or time. But we already have someone, who knows what your going through and can help you better then anyone else.
Yourself.